Happiness for Thursday

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Yesterday's happiness was clearing out a shed for a friend who has a bad hand. Assisted and guided by a lovely woman who is a medical herbalist. We laughed and laughed. I was covered in grime, cobwebs, things to do with dead insects, but still we laughed. 

 Happiness tip for today ? Say 'well done' to someone. 

 We sat with tea and shared stories. Ill health, grief, incredulity. We talked about unhappy people.

 I created this blog as I used to have a London mummy blog and it was really fun. It went in an unhappy assault. Various things I have created have gone in an unhappy assault. 

 I have taken a couple of years to suss out why these things happen ? Why destroy something good ? Why create pain and divisions ? Why make others feel bad ? Why cause discord ? It simply doesn't make any sense. 

 It is a bit like when I go to pubs which I neither get nor like really. I do see the community bit and I understand sitting by a cosy fire in the winter. However I often, rather distracted, observe. Homo sapiens, said to be the dominant organism on earth, is busy destroying the planet, each other, and the species itself  - man. We also don't seem to learn from our mistakes. 

 Look at human behaviour in a pub - it is, to me, not unlike unhappy behaviour, illogical and odd. Spending money to consume something that is bad for you and may make you feel sick. Paying significantly over the odds. Smoking cigarettes which are bad for you and expensive. Eating food which may or may not be good. If you don't drink you will be there listening to drunk people. 

 I like conviviality and am hugely sociable, there is to me a parallel here with unhappy people - why ?

I have evolved and mastered techniques and strategies for dealing with unhappy people, with time, research and personal analysis. 

 I will give examples of unhappy behaviour, it is often textbook. 

 The reason I do this and decide to bang on here ? Despite facing three lots of destruction caused by unhappy behaviour I still feel, every day, optimistic and happy. I laugh every day. 

 I will give happy pointers, strategies, talk about food, travel, literature. There will be a link each time to something random no doubt. I am having lunch with Brian Eversham on Saturday. He's a marvel. Take a look. 

 In the deep mild winter

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