How To Deal With Unhappy People

I have just come back from a fearsome dog walk in pelting snow and this was on my mind so I thought it a good idea to put it here.  I am an emotional person and have good emotional literacy I think. I had therapy, I have had my dark times, but I try to be kind and help people out when I can.  I noticed something recently. I was out walking. Something can be present by its' absence. Over many years, actually in total 16, I noticed a syndrome. I couldn't fathom it as it was the diametric opposite of what one might expect. In terms of controlling and confusing behaviour, this is one of the more covert ones but it is so devastating.  There are times when we need support, celebration, a good luck or a well done. There are times we stumble and fall, literally or figuratively.  A normal person will be there for you. A friend in need is a friend indeed. When my friends and loved ones are upset, worried, troubled, sad, happy, I am there for them, in any way. I try t...

I am reconfiguring what I put where and when. I have a wonderful project on the boil and two wonderful collaborators, we will have a summit in February of next year. Based on the principles of William Morris. I have played on Facebook, with ineptitude. This blog, bathed in a touch of silliness is very serious and important to me and as it grows and develops I hope translates into real meaning and full dialogue on how to deal with something pretty dire. Information. It is everywhere, we are swimming in it. I neither watch TV nor read the papers yet I get loads by osmosis. My children know stuff that at their age I wouldn't have had a clue about. Information, I tend to overshare as why not, can be used to very dangerous means. Here I refer in essence to the sociopath and I just ran up against one and I put into place my well versed ( I had a wonderful counsellor when I first got away from he who cannot be named ) and he taught me just what to do. A sociopath or narcissist wil...

Yesterday's happiness was clearing out a shed for a friend who has a bad hand. Assisted and guided by a lovely woman who is a medical herbalist. We laughed and laughed. I was covered in grime, cobwebs, things to do with dead insects, but still we laughed.  Happiness tip for today ? Say 'well done' to someone.  We sat with tea and shared stories. Ill health, grief, incredulity. We talked about unhappy people. I created this blog as I used to have a London mummy blog and it was really fun. It went in an unhappy assault. Various things I have created have gone in an unhappy assault.  I have taken a couple of years to suss out why these things happen ? Why destroy something good ? Why create pain and divisions ? Why make others feel bad ? Why cause discord ? It simply doesn't make any sense.  It is a bit like when I go to pubs which I neither get nor like really. I do see the community bit and I understand sitting by a cosy fire in the winter. However I often...